1. If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access to an exit and not in the bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near weapons.
  2. Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator or stairs would be best.
  3. Have a packed bag ready and keep it in a secret but accessible place in order to leave quickly.
  4. Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask that they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
  5. Devise a code word to use with you children, family and neighbors when you need the police.
  6. Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don’t think you will need to).
  7. If the situation is very dangerous, use your own instincts and judgments to keep yourself safe, call the police as soon as it is safe to do so. (You have the ability to obtain a protective order at your local court during business house and if the abuser is arrested, through the police at any hour of the day).
  8. Always remember – you have the right not to be abused in your relationship- physically, verbally, emotionally, or sexually.